How to Forgive -
When a Family member or friend becomes the face of the person who has caused us pain or lack in worth / love - this is a very important life experience which is requesting your attention.
Your ability to Forgive these individuals no matter the atrocity enacted upon you or the innocence which you held in the experience. For this is your key to liberation from the pain once and for-all.
The forgiveness Is not for the other person - rather for your own returning to Love and Empowerment. For victim mindsets which are carried on in life only provide more suffering, and experiences encountered with the same turnouts.
I use an example of my own Healing process:
Forgiving Adolf Hitler
This is a human being and subject which holds great importance to me in the expressing of my experiences which hold great weight in the beliefs and ideas felt by many in society.
All can agree on how disagreeable the acts of Nazi Germany had displayed and carried out upon fellow human beings - for reasons of their beliefs, features, and cultures. Led by Adolf Hitler.
Now one of the most despised names upon the tongues of any human who has little understanding of world history. The ultimate face of 'evil' - which would be a damn scary thought to think of someone managing to find a way to take that spot in the future... Yet, lucky for us this will never be. And Hitler took that spot for the last time in our Modern Human Civilization.
I had become faced with the idea of Hell, or the punishment of Soul's experienced Lives mistakes and bad choices. Which I was quickly put into a place of fully believing there is no such judgement faced other than our own Soul's - and that no Soul deserves to burn eternally for a life lived that went off the tracks. No Matter the Extent...Even Hitler.
And then I wondered about him. I felt deeply for him for the first time ever that my heart could even allow such a perspective to compassionately view someone who had done acts which I will never understand.
Yet there I was; at this place in life where my own Divinely guided journey into Awakening to the Spiritual Nature of my Being. At a cost of stripping away all that I held onto for Stability and the Reality in which I had lived comfortably for 30 years abiding by the laws and standards which now were flipped upside down and burnt at my feet.
I had to rewrite and return the beliefs which I stand by into the Truth which was My Own. Not the conditions and standards given to me. Even with my life proving the evidence being those standards as Real Truth ... until the Divine Intelligent Hand which Guided this Life reached through the Veil and began knocking down the pillars of false beliefs which I held onto for safety at the time.
The point being here; that I was brought to my own Forgiveness which was the only forgiveness ever needed to lose the shame, guilt, and remorse.
My own Judgement being the only voice which plagued me with criticisms or worries.
And then the Idea of Sins - which I was worried as I faced the memories and realizations of a life which began to appear as if I lived it selfishly without care to others. I was ashamed and accepted my guilt in being a bad person who made mistakes often.
Acknowledging finally that I used people, took advantage of people, and was dishonest with character. Which I didn't deny any longer - for the evidence was all there. In my sub-conscious; ready and able to play through as if I'm back in the shoes of that moment in time. Even feeling what I felt, or what the other person felt. All the way back to my first night home from the hospital....which even that needed healing.
That's actually where I had drawn the line in the sand for the Full Expression prior to Experienced Innocence lost by way of rules placed upon this life (necessarily). It was so clear and vivid as I knew I was seeing through the eyes of myself as a baby. Upon a bed and room which didn't look familiar whatsoever - and my parents so young and cute laying on the edge bed looking into each other's eyes with the most true unbreakable love I've ever seen in two people.
I had described the room and memory to them one night when visiting - and that's when they shared it was the first night home from the Hospital.
Tangent there; but back on track as I had faced that there is no Judgements by a Creator or angry God that will put a thumb up or thumb down upon your life lived. Yet your Soul is beyond the most Divine essence which you can imagine - that being said, many Souls like Hitler or other murderers that are faced with their life's actions and behaviors in which they had displayed during the confusion and chaos - the Soul will decide to participate in something which ensures the learning of the lessons which they had missed cues upon in that lifetime.
So you can trust that Hitler has sufficiently been punishing himself. And that when you realize everyone in your life, all the enemies you thought you had and violators upon your safety - were actually the life's pivotal experiences which you contracted to interact upon in the hopes of learning some lesson or gaining a perspective, strength, or gratitude previously missed.
All of it was for you, by you. And Hitler's case is of a Soul which is no different then you. Or me. Or any other human being on this Earth, the very same to the Dalai Lama and a homeless man in LA present-day.
All Doing the Best they Can in the Experience of Separation
Which at that point in human history, don't forget the United States was still segregating a population of our fellows because the color of their skin was black.
So this was a point in Human Consciousness which was coming to the fruition of fully understanding and experiencing the un-governed atrocities which one group could do to another.
For idea or belief that one is superior to the other. For this had to be leveled out which I choose to see the WWII as something which pushed out attention to the sickening acts unfairly forced upon a life for no reason other than the people who they identify as.
The countries which pushed forward into the mission which was driven by putting a stop to the inhumane acts. The rising to a defense of strangers in countries far across oceans - for the moral ideal which was at stake upon allowing this to go on.
All saw this and all were struck with fear and distain. Thus providing them the second thought before they ever participate in the type of discrimination and hate which resembles the genocide of Jews in Germany.
I know all the Ancestors of the one's who lost their life in these times of human collective experience - are all hoping that we can forgive this time period. And all who were involved in the other side to which our view may lean. For this forgiveness allows our consciousness to move forward.
As a world living in peace and Oneness is contingent on this Forgiveness. For we must Honor and appreciate that every single thing that has happened in this world leading to our coming into awareness; is worthy of our gratitude for being the factors which allowed us to exist.
For if one person hadn't met another person in 1920. Or 1638. Or 10B.C. -- then you could just as easily not been set into motion for existence. So all things leading to now; made this possible. For this, the moment present, is what we bring gratitude to and acknowledging the perfection to make this all possible is a miracle which goes far beyond our conception at this conscious life.
The forgiveness of Hitler allows the Individual who is in fact the one needing forgiveness in this moment. By their own Love, yet when the compassion to bring forgiveness in place of hate or anger for something like the acts committed in WWII--GREAT space is made for that person to forgive themselves in the areas where they were lost and confused unintentionally discharging upon another person.
The Avoidance only leads to the continuation of the returning discomfort or painful recalls which most often are affecting other relationships in our life. For the way of Life in this Universe is to continue to provide the opportunities which offer the experience faced to be looked at or handled differently by you.