The Act of Judgement Reflected
We are raised into a life experience that requires our judgement on all our daily activities and decision making. Whether it be to speed up and make a yellow light before turning red, or when you pass a woman on the sidewalk who looks a little scruffed up and dirty; leading you to think to yourself that she must be homeless.
With the categorization of the woman as homeless comes a perspective change on that individual. Being homeless and “less-fortunate’’(as we like to say) instantaneously puts a view in your eye that this woman is somehow not equal to you, and there is a difference in approachability to the next woman you pass who is dressed professionally for her lunch meeting with a client.
Harmless and without intent? You could argue that, but if you wish to reduce your own self-judgement then you must also first become aware of how you judge externally, because that is what will reflect back to you. As it started with you and it will finish with you.
Then the real judgements of your mind as you watch the nightly news or scroll through facebook, and you see some act of violence by a terrorist group being reported by the anchors...
What mental imagery came up for you as you read “terrorist group”?
Don’t get too defensive. No, that doesn’t mean you’re racist. This just points out the fact that our mind automatically does the judging as part of its involuntary set up to navigate the world safely. Yet in todays age, we have little predators above us and less real threats to worry about making judgements on to fight or run - and now we just have this automatic labeling mechanism in the brain that wants to categorize everything in the field of vision.
Neutrality. This is a key term for the process of omitting yourself from the endless cycle of judgements which double back onto yourself. Keeping a stance of neutrality while listening to others share something in a conversation, driving in your car to and from work, or even in the middle of an altercation or heated debate. If you can begin noticing how your mind judges in these moments we have each day, then you are able to slowly but surely start rewiring your brain’s processing pattern for less negativity.
Self judgement is the only judgement there is that will prevent your movement forward in life. As the words of another will be said and gone within a moment’s breath, but the continued self-talk of repeating the words or thinking about the validity in them is an entire battle that can last a lifetime to let go of. Habitual negative self-talk is confusing for the individual, as they have begun to believe it is their own thinking that is behind it; when in reality it is a response of a defense mechanism gone haywire on the emotional slings and arrow wounds of our past.
To remain neutral during these thoughts is a task which may require much patience as your autopilotting of the emotional response pattern is probably pretty established as a habit. We will find the most successful plan of action in thwarting off the judgemental thoughts by not attaching or judging ourselves for the judgemental thoughts. Trying to just observe and allow while these thoughts pass through our energetic field, without adding judgement onto the judgements.
Then don’t forget to go and fuck yourself. Because you are a judgemental prick who should suck a dick. But no one deserves to go to hell and suffer for their wrongs here; so just let yourself off the hook this time and return to source indefinitely.
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