Patsy another one of my clients has since day 1 told me, "I just want to walk." Yet her legs and arms were completely unable to hold her weight with any balance. She had been in a wheel chair for some time before starting to work with me. I had taken the fact that she can't stand up or kick her legs to much extent as confirmation for her verbal indication that she can't walk.
Yet everyday she would say, "I just want to walk." That's all she wanted. As I would re-affirm to her that no she said her dr.'s said they don't know whats wrong but she's losing control of her extremities. Which is what I was told.
So I would sit there and run through the corrective movements I was taught through the certifications I had. Just making her move essentially. Which is of importance for sure. I would have her do stand ups from her chair. I could see she had some strength and was able to do it pretty well.
Finally I left on vacation and my other trainer who covered for me was able to get her walking using the bar down in the fitness room. Which is something I had never thought of or brought her down to. I really took a look at my disconnection to my work in that moment. I realized my focus being too much on the business side of things had really hindered my ability to provide ME as a service. To really hear what this beautiful lady was telling me.
That she just wanted to walk. And instead I chose the easier route of conforming to the diagnosis she was given. Which is really none at all. You can't use your arms or legs now, not sure why but just keep kicking those legs.
I am fully engaged with Patsy now, and threw the business side out the window. I threw out the price tags I labeled next to specific services. I decided I'm just going to sell who I am. At the price which she thinks it's worth. And that's what I did. Which eliminated a guilty feeling I've felt too without understanding why I felt it before. But in reality, I knew exactly why -I wasn't giving my all.
So after the week I was gone and the trainer told me about her walking without her saying anything about not being able to. They just went for it and did it. Using the bar for stability in the fitness room. Well I decided Patsy and I are going to just focus on walking. As I have done with Donald from the last writing.
Patsy and I would walk about half the length of the hall way outside her room at the assisted living. She would get tired and again I would say okay let's sit down. Or let's get back to your room. Until I began noticing the conversation allowing her focus to not be on the distance she's gone, but rather just in the moment with me. And wouldn't you know it-she made it twice as far the day I finally engaged to that with my listening and responding to be fluid.
As soon as she looked up and noticed she was in the next hallway, she said "Ohh....i'm tired, I have to sit down."
I responded with a follow up question to the conversation we were having...And she continued stepping and talking.
The golden ticket for Patsy as well. Walking and Talking!
Now we have done all those hallways and without break even. Now we are really focusing that mental focus and attention to feeling the parts of the body in rhythm. She's all there, and she's healthy but I think it's just a case of believing what you're told without trying yourself. For fear of that first step. Of that last fall haunting your focus. As it does Doug's and Patsy's.
Well now we are proving to the mind it's been abiding by a false reality. A life with beliefs that physical limitations were accepted and avoided of trial for the fear would win in the mind.
Now we are working on her arms and hands. Which are tingly and sting. The doctor believes nervous system damage. But I have a hunch I'm on to something here with her. If the person is willing to believe in new ideas and understand the contrary thoughts that it takes throughout the day. Then they are capable of recoveries which seemed hopeless just weeks ago.
Don't buy into it folks. Sure the dis-ease symptoms are real. But what's the prescription offered? What's the understanding behind it? Well becoming open to a more consciously aware approach and even spiritual leanings - it gives a whole new realm of healing
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